Damn it Dad V

Invasion on the Introverts

Note: for this blog my straight soul brother is now Frodo.

Dear Dad,

I love you. Thank you for assisting with helping Mom and I find a new place to live. Thank you for helping me with my car repairs and my student loans.

But you are being a horrid guest.

Frodo has gone above and beyond in letting you-a man he has no relation to-stay in his home. Not on the sofa or a futon. A real bed and a room at no cost

He did this as a favor to Mom and I. So we could have a family thanksgiving.

You thanked him by invading for a week.

Guests and fish stink after three days.

Longer can happen. If mutually agreed on by host on hosted.

Frodo probably figured around this.

Mom thought Tuesday to to Saturday.

I figured Tuesday to Friday.

You decided Monday to Monday without telling anyone. That makes you rude. And unwanted company.

Me? My thoughts and feelings are irrelevant. I am not the one housing you. Any goodwill with Mom and I acquired is spent.

Frodo and I are something called

Social Introverts. This means we recharge with alone time. We like company fine, on our own terms.

I know his pain because you are not the kind of guest who self entertains well. I am less introverted then he, which means I function well enough despite your presence preventing me going into my room and playing one player video games that may not be fun to watch.

So far.

You have made yourself at home in his home. It is not your home. Frodo is polite enough he has not chased you out with Sting.

I believe he should have.

You see, Mom and I still live in the Hell House. By invading Bagend down the hill, you have made Frodo less then hospitable. We depend on his goodwill for life. If we want to cook, eat healthy, clean laundry, or use wifi it is better if Frodo not resent us.

Frodo is a social introvert and you did not drag him off for adventure. You just invaded. Thus he has not had time to recharge. You don't just keep to your own room. You interupt his day to day life. You are at odds with his dog. Your presence causes upset in his life.

Frodo has asked my mother and I to go easy on the house for the next week or so because of your invasion. I do not begrudge him this.

I begrudge you, Dad.

I have two rather full laundry baskets that will only get fuller.

Fortunately this is a week of back to back overnight shifts so I will not need the refuge as much. That said my uniform is among the things that could use cleaned.

I know you are considering Christmas. I don't know how. I will not know my schedule till the Saturday before it. You will not be welcome down the hill as a guest in Bag End. I certainly won't be setting up an office there.

So thank you for the ways you are helping. But know your visit cost us. It cost Mom and I. It cost Frodo. And I don't just speak of financial. I speak of God damn time and energy.

PS: This letter does not precursor a silent treatment. I'm just about to enter a busy week. If I send this.